Catch-Up

I have been SO lazy with updating this blog. Now, i've decided to change the whole look. What do you think? I think it's time for a change! yay! Alot of stuff have happened since my last post; I think there are 3 main things:

1. My hubby's in Perth for a business trip for 2 weeks; that's the longest time he's been apart from Abdurrahman & I.
2. With all thanks to Allah, my brother's finally engaged! Allah-willing he'll be married by end of December 2007, in Indonesia.
3. Also, Allah-willing, Abdurrahman & I will be able to attend my brother's wedding. But my hubby won't be going though, he wants to sort out our plan to purchase a house.

Those are the 3 top things that i've been thinking about for the past week.

Alhamdulillah, the good news is i've already booked plane tickets for Robbie, Abs & I. But I was surprised when Robbie told me to cancel his ticket because he wont' be going with me & abs. I was a little sad & excited at the same time because i've NEVER gone overseas by myself; but I won't be anyway as i've booked the same flight as my parents & brothers...........but still, I'M EXCITED, WOOHOO!! Alhamdulillah.

Words are not enough to describe how happy I am for my dearest brother. He deserves this happiness after all he's been through. I hope to Allah that I won't miss his wedding, this is the special one because he's the last one to get married out of 3 of us. First was me, then my eldest brother, and now inshallah, will be his turn.

There WAS one girl he wanted to marry over here, but her dad didn't approve of him; which is unusual because to be honest, he's an all-rounder guy and I can't imagine anyone disapproving him to marry their daughters, of course he has flaws. Mind you, this girl was my close friend, friends since high school. I need to make it clear that my brother and this girl WERE NOT "going out" or "dating" or anything. They had feelings for each other and knew it, gradually they had the intention of marriage. And this went on for about 3 or 4 years; basically I got sick and tired of it and so did our family around us, because it was going nowhere. That's when I started to TOTALLY disapprove of the "relationship", if you wanna call it that. Soon afterwards our friendship started to disappear, but we're still friends to this day but not as close as before. I didn't care. I'd rather lose ties with her than with my brother.

Try to imagine your brother intending to marry your friend, and that intention is still there 4 years down the track, and nothing is happening! It's a -'i like you, you like me, let's get married, oh no your dad disapproves, but we'll wait and see what happens'- kind of thing.

Here's another thing to understand. In Islam, it's utterly important that both parents of both parties are happy with the intending marriage. If not, your marriage is guranteed to go wrong. Your parents' blessings is NEEDED for a happy marriage, because whether you like it or not your parents are involved too.

And so to make it short, after SOOOOO much contemplation and consideration my brother ended it with her. Of course it left her heart-broken but it was the right thing to do. And now that my brother's back from Indonesia, engaged, she found out and had the guts to call him, on Monday night, asking him to reconsider marrying his fiance!! When I was told about this I was PISSED OFF!! She knew no boundaries, no limits, NO NOTHING!! I've never disliked her more. I ask to Allah to make it easy for my brother and for him to marry the other girl, for him to be finally happy.

Whoa, I had no idea that I bottled up so much.

~Peace.